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- kenrelate
- Ken specializes in Mediation using the understanding based model. He has the ability to unglue the most stubborn components of interpersonal disharmony. In a long distinguished career covering both the public and private sectors his outstanding interpersonal and influencing skills saw him serve in roles of Negotiator, Mediator, Arbiter, and Chief Executive.
Do you think transformative mediation has a role in all aspects of dispute resolution?
ReplyDeleteDivorce and Children: The role of early intervention mediation in child support and development following divorce
ReplyDelete"Many researchers have found that it is not the divorce itself that causes children’s problems, but rather it is the quality of the relationship and parenting by custodial and non-custodial parents after the divorce that has the greatest impact. The presence of children requires that divorced parents restructure their lives in ways that allow children to continue their relationships with both parents. Each parent must find new ways of relating independently with the child while they also develop new rules and behaviors with each other. Parents who are able to agree on the roles, rules, and boundaries between the different homes typically find that the children are able to flourish and make better transitions.
Mediation may not resolve all of the parents’ issues, but it can help parents focus on parenting and ease the transition for their children. As you might expect, children also experience conflict in many of the same ways as adults. Children, however, depend on their families to help them through these feelings and if their parents are having difficulties coping, they may not know what to do. This can often result in greater use of negative coping strategies and a higher incidence of emotional and behavioral problems (Kurdek & Sinclair, 1988; Rogers & Holmbeck, 1997).
Mediation can serve as a catalyst for positive interactions and communication that lasts long past the mediation session. If parents are able to take steps to minimize the conflict during and after the divorce they can help their children through this transition. A divorce can negatively impact a child, but in the end it is how the parents handle their divorce and their relationship with their children that can determine how children experience the divorce." credit to Daniel Bjerknes